tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8770341086445997547.post2524965990112461317..comments2023-10-07T22:37:49.244+13:00Comments on The Hand Mirror: "Legitimate rape" is illogical cantkatyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15742280289613450293noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8770341086445997547.post-63442399078504636512012-08-21T21:12:34.636+12:002012-08-21T21:12:34.636+12:00@ First Anon - rape fantasies are acceptable to be...@ First Anon - rape fantasies are acceptable to be played out with consent. They can actually be very empowering to survivors because it allows them to re-write their experience but in a situation where they have control. What's more, rape fantasises are almost never about rape but are about control. All of these things are normal and healthy to fantasise about. The crucial thing is that both parties have discussed it, feel safe, have an exist strategy and are consenting every step of the way. <br /><br />me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8770341086445997547.post-71633866144587796282012-08-21T13:41:52.946+12:002012-08-21T13:41:52.946+12:00http://io9.com/5936157/the-real-science-behind-tod...http://io9.com/5936157/the-real-science-behind-todd-akins-claim-that-victims-of-legitimate-rape-dont-get-pregnant<br /><br />Akin is actually wrong with a side order of really, really wrong: in the US there are ~30,000 pregnancies a year from rape. "rare", yeah right. Also, the pregnancy rate from rape appears to be higher than for couples trying to conceive (after allowing for rape victims who were using contraception). <br /><br />With actual Science! And like all good science, that article has references.<br />Moznoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8770341086445997547.post-17968714897160414822012-08-21T11:37:35.565+12:002012-08-21T11:37:35.565+12:00Also problematic is Akin's initial response to...Also problematic is Akin's initial response to the fallout saying that he "misspoke". Akin didn't misspeak, Akin let his personal, dangerous, and archaic beliefs be known. <br /><br />Today he has continued to defend his remarks and clarified that he was speaking about "forcible" rape...<br /><br /> "Akin said that he was trying to refer specifically "forcible rape" in his comment, but that "legitimate" was "absolutely the wrong word" for him to use." <br /><br />-friggAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8770341086445997547.post-67785146833944038192012-08-21T11:37:20.791+12:002012-08-21T11:37:20.791+12:00This is well worth a read for a chuckle; "the...<a href="http://www.theawl.com/2012/08/todd-akin-uterus-facts" rel="nofollow">This is well worth a read for a chuckle</a>; "the natural enemies of the uterus are the locust, the hawk, the carpenter ant, and the witch."Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08977150346842277994noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8770341086445997547.post-53906639034365949672012-08-21T11:19:41.149+12:002012-08-21T11:19:41.149+12:00Even "The Onion" can't resist this o...Even "The Onion" can't resist this one: http://www.theonion.com/articles/congressman-pregnancy-rarely-results-from-legitima,29249/<br /><br />Their fake vox pop has:<br /><br />"I’m sure he’s very sorry and what he meant to say was nothing at all.<br /><br />John Kazan<br />Systems Analyst"Moznoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8770341086445997547.post-85113109425927410922012-08-21T10:19:26.223+12:002012-08-21T10:19:26.223+12:00I wonder if he was just making a terrible pun on &...I wonder if he was just making a terrible pun on "illegitimate". Or is that just my undue attraction to rationality? I'd love to see where he got the idea from, especially since he's apparently a christian and may well have a biblical reference for us.<br /><br />There was also some scary stuff in his original speech about someone needing to be punished and it shouldn't be the child. Child being the conceptus, not the rape victim, just to be really clear.<br /><br />Rape fantasies, IMO, require you both to be comfortable with the acting out. And you should both be clear on exactly what the fantasy involves. Very clear. Also, don't be afraid to stop and say "I don't want do this any more". Google is your friend, there's a lot been written on the subject by people who've had a range of experiences. Moznoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8770341086445997547.post-83927547366416657982012-08-21T09:52:16.884+12:002012-08-21T09:52:16.884+12:00Anon, kindly note that anonymous comments require ...Anon, kindly note that anonymous comments require a consistent handle. Your comment isn't really on topic but I'll indulge it. Personally I think rape fantasies can be explored safely, e.g. through the use of safe words and clear communication beforehand and during. Others who are more knowledgeable about BDSM may wish to comment further? Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08977150346842277994noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8770341086445997547.post-72014633157128323042012-08-20T23:24:34.461+12:002012-08-20T23:24:34.461+12:00Serious question, what if my girlfriend wants to a...Serious question, what if my girlfriend wants to act out a rape fantasy? Should I indulge or do you think I should talk her out of it?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8770341086445997547.post-47242218884762683102012-08-20T20:58:13.459+12:002012-08-20T20:58:13.459+12:00And here was I thinking that it was just the nuns ...And here was I thinking that it was just the nuns who peddled such horrible myths. I'm appalled that this myth is so widespread. Still.Deborahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14182573274494086468noreply@blogger.com