tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8770341086445997547.post7510228195786284887..comments2023-10-07T22:37:49.244+13:00Comments on The Hand Mirror: Stepmothering researchkatyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15742280289613450293noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8770341086445997547.post-64074585777161566042010-03-24T16:05:33.228+13:002010-03-24T16:05:33.228+13:00"I read about some research that shows that a..."I read about some research that shows that a supportive/non-disciplinarian approach by step-parents works best for blended families."<br /><br />This is an interesting insight which I hadn't considered before! I have always had quite a good relationship with my own stepmother and I think it does come down to this.katyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15742280289613450293noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8770341086445997547.post-22838647966710460302010-03-22T14:09:56.076+13:002010-03-22T14:09:56.076+13:00From the article: "She is often expected to a...From the article: "She is often expected to assume a motherly-type role - helping to feed the children, dress them in the morning and take them to and from school - and yet she is not their mother." <br /><br />This is so true in my experience as a stepmother for the last 8 years. <br /><br />Trying to define my role in my husband's kid's lives was/is difficult. Anyway, I decided that I would be like a kind auntie. I help care for them, and love them, but I do not try and be their mum.<br /><br />I read about some research that shows that a supportive/non-disciplinarian approach by step-parents works best for blended families. I mostly follow this, and we all seem to get along quite well.Anna Snoreply@blogger.com