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warriors… people with nothing better to do… SJWs, unsuccessful IRL… not helping
in the REAL world…
I quit one of
my volunteer roles last week and cried hard about it. I will miss the people I work
with, the fun we have, and the identity I held as a volunteer for that
organisation. But one of the strangest reasons my volunteer work is important
to me, is that as a feminist online the above phrases are used to undermine my
comments. I am particularly sensitive to the idea of “simply bickering online”
rather than getting out there and “really making a difference”. Frankly, it gets
to me.
This is
bizarre, because during the day I literally save lives, and since I was 16, I
have always had a volunteer job as well as my paid role. I have no reason to
feel vulnerable to any accusation of lack of action, and yet it gets to
me. Congrats Jerks.In the future I may not always be well enough to do a paid job, let alone additional work on top of that. My wellness may deteriorate and I may be stuck at home, “just” online.
And to that I say THAT IS GOOD ENOUGH.
n fact, it’s
not only good enough, the communication of equality, equity, fairness, and
justice to your community is PIVOTAL. Without good marketing, the best brands
fail, and we need a good comms team for the decency of humanity. The other side
may not have particularly good communication, but they make up for it in the sheer
amount of filth they spew onto the net each day.
When we look
at the Violence pyramid above, far fewer people are actually assaulting and physical
hurting people than there are making horrible jokes, degrading other people and
using problematic language to perpetuate issues. So for every person out there
literally saving lives, we need 100 at home explaining to Uncle Jack that his
emails are gross and offensive and no one wants them. 50 people need to be
online showing their friends that they CAN speak up to racist FB posts. 20 people
should be on twitter, expecting more of allies, and speaking up for people
being harassed and abused. 5 need to be brave enough at work to ask a colleague
to explain how that offensive joke was funny.
The people working
at the public face of activism are pivotal, they are important, and even if
that IS all they do, it is of value. To expect more of anyone is rude. It is ableist and objectionable. Most people have lives, families, jobs and health to take care of. The fact any of us have time for this, which we can do from bed, is an unpaid miracle and yes, we have things we would rather be doing!
So next time
someone uses “they have nothing else in their lives” or “not really helping” as
a critique –think twice about supporting them.
1 comment:
Absolutely spot on. Once again, it's as if women don't do real work...
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