Tony Veitch, Matthew Johns, the English rugby team last year. Every time one of these "scandals" (read alleged assaults) take place, the same sorry cliches inevitably surface.
"It was an accident, I didn't mean for it to happen "
Because you tripped over and your penis ended up somewhere it shouldn't?
"If you act/dress like a whore, you'll be treated like one."
Everyone, yes even prostitutes, have the right to say no. To borrow from a Pat Booth article that was printed a year or so ago if a known philanthropist is mugged, we do not assume that because he/she has give money away in the pas they forfeit their rights to say no giving away their money in the future the same should hold true for rape.
"She went back to the room/said yes to doing sexual act A, so she knew what she was getting herself in for"
Even if you buy the idea that most people know that they shouldn't go back home/to hotel room with someone they just met unless they want to have sex, what sexual acts are being consented to might be different. Like for instance just because a woman chooses to go back to a hotel room to have sex with two guys, doesn't mean she okayed to have sex with others nor have half the team watch.
"She didn't fight back, she seemed to enjoy it"
Rape is about consent. Does consent mean the absence of a 'no' or the presence of a 'yes?' How about instead of assuming the absence of no means the presence of the yes we start asking questions just to clear it up. And no it doesn't need to be sterile legal documents, try some foreplay. Start your dirty talking/texting before you get back home.
"I was too drunk to know what I was doing"
An excuse that won't get you off a whole host of crimes, try again.
"Everyone's at fault, including the girl involved."
Because by admitting some of the blame but offloading the rest you've thus cleared yourself of any wrongdoing. Nope, try again.
"He's lost his job/family because of this... Let's remember that sometimes the guy is actually the "victim"."
A chain of events that were all due to an earlier decision to rape.
What rape myths make your blood boil?