Showing posts with label domestic violence. Show all posts
Showing posts with label domestic violence. Show all posts

Thursday, 9 July 2015

The evolution of Male Chauvinist Pig to SPERM

Content note: explicit discussion of violence against women, violent misogyny and rape culture.

They call themselves "men's rights activists," and we've let them get away with it.  They have been clever, using language of "rights" and liberal ideas of equality, all the while demonising women and reinforcing sexist oppression.  A Voice for Men, Masculinist Evolution New Zealand (MENZ), the New Zealand Equality Education Foundation and the Union of Fathers have stolen liberatory language while they work on restoring men to their rightful place as top of the heap.

It's about time feminists called this out.  Second wave feminists in the 1960s and 1970s called sexists male chauvinist pigs.  They didn't let MCPs define the terms.

This international "men's rights" movement includes "activists" celebrating domestic violence murders as men fighting back.


Then there is A Voice for Men and their take on fathering daughters:
The night winds on, with discussion of rape and the smothering of penises, the sorrows of false accusations and the narcissism of young girls. A sore point for Factory, who has two daughters, who, like young women everywhere, he says, compete for the most exaggerated rape claim. It is, he says, a status thing. When one of his daughters came home one night and said she’d been raped, he said, "Are you fucking kidding me?" Sitting with us, he hikes his voice up to a falsetto in imitation: " ’Oh, I just got raped.’ " He laughs. There’s a moment of silence. A bridge too far? "I told her if she pressed charges, I’d disown her."
Elam, whose attention has drifted, grins through his beard. "That’s good fathering," he says."
Here in New Zealand MENZ help men to avoid protection orders for domestic violence and tell you what to do if you're accused of rape.  The face of MENZ is John Potter, convicted child sexual abuser.  Posts and comments on the page are Misogyny 101.

Let's call these male chauvinist pigs, with all-new equality lingo, what they are.  Sexist Protectors of Extra Rights for Men.   



SPERMs have many concerns, what with all the feminism.  Recently they got worried about Mad Max and Hollywood being unfair on men.  I'm just going to leave this here, thanks Human Rights Commission.


Increasingly though, the focus of SPERMs is domestic and sexual violence.  They argue men are just as likely to be victims as women, and women are just as likely to be perpetrators as men. 

This argument is well-advanced in Aotearoa, and while MENZ and John Potter may seem fringe, SPERM academics like David Fergusson and MSD's new Chief Science Advisor Richie Poulton who focus on undermining "ideological" approaches to gendered violence, do not.  Nor do the regular deluge of emails from other SPERMs to policy analysts inside government.

Fergusson and Poulton have been arguing for years - with super approving commentary at MENZ and elsewhere - that women are as violent as men, based on research which uses the Conflict Tactics Scale.  I stab you, you push me away, we've been equally violent.  The CTS has been heavily critiqued for missing self-defense, not addressing context like whether or not you're afraid, and not measuring sexual violence in relationships.

Fergusson and Poulton can't explain the gender differences in hospital admissions, rates of seeking protection orders, rates of reporting to the Police, numbers of families in Refuges.  Even they haven't been able to pretend sexual violence is gender neutral.

I do not wish to pretend that men never experience domestic or sexual violence.  There's good evidence that boys are targeted for sexual abuse at previously unsuspected rates,  if not at the same rates as girls.  And with emerging data showing high rates of victimisation for trans* and intersex people, acknowledging diverse experiences of violence is vital.  

But saying violence is always an awful thing - whatever your gender identity - is not the same as pretending it happens at the same rates across gender.  SPERMs are not happy with acknowledging male victims exist; they need them to exist equally with female victims.  And they need female perpetrators to exist equally with male perpetrators.  Contrary to evidence.

New Zealand's Family Violence Death Review from 2013 tells us that in 55 cases of violence which led to death:
  • 51 deaths were of female victims of men's violence; 1 death was of a male victim of women's violence; 3 deaths were new male partners killed by ex-male partners
  • 53 murders were committed by abusive men; 2 murders were committed by abusive women, one of a male partner, one of a female partner
It will be very interesting to see whether Richie Poulton's ideological influence at MSD leads to a degendering of domestic and sexual violence.  Will he try to further SPERM positions like encouraging female victims into counselling with men using violence and removing state supports for women leaving violent relationships?  How will funding for groups working with male survivors increase?

One area he's likely to attack - because SPERMs hate it - is the White Ribbon Campaign, which focuses on ending men's violence towards women.  White Ribbon commemorates 14 murders by a male engineering student who killed women on a course he missed out on in Montreal in 1991.  Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse Trust, Family First and MENZ all come out swinging on this one, pretty much every year.  They actively campaign to stop others participating - one comment on the MENZ link above explains how they stopped New Zealand Courts displaying any White Ribbon materials.  They argue the White Ribbon campaign should be about male victims too, despite how insulting that would be to the 14 murdered women the campaign honours.

One final note.  I've trained close to 50 sexual violence prevention practitioners in New Zealand over the last few years, with nearly an even gender split.  The vast majority of the men doing that work understand gendered dynamics well, and are constantly looking for new ways to encourage other men to behave in respectful, playful and equity based ways when they are sexual with other people, and to intervene if they see men around them supporting violence.

Just one SPERM in that time is probably pretty good going, though I still worry about the damage he may be doing with the young people he works with.   Our training included how to facilitate a session on "Blurred Lines" to encourage conversation about gender norms.  The vicious misogyny of this song, when you actually read the lyrics, is difficult to miss.  The SPERM was most concerned about these lyrics:
"So, hit me up when you pass through
I'll give you something big enough to tear your ass in two"
He was worried that young men who don't have big enough penises to "tear asses in two" would not feel masculine enough.  This SPERM was thinking like a rapist.

"Men's rights activists" are not fighting for rights and equality.  I'm sick of being polite about them, using their language and having to re-prove, over and over again, that sexist oppression exists.  Sexist Protectors of Extra Rights for Men want to always be the centre of attention, setting all the rules, having all their needs met, being the only voices heard.  Enough.  Let's take it back.

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For the first time, I am closing comments on a post.  I've been the target of SPERMs in New Zealand before, and while I can't control what they write about me on their own sites, I'm choosing not to allow that here, for this post.  Apologies to all our fabulous readers who would no doubt enjoy discussing and debating the issues above.

Tuesday, 30 June 2015

Everywhere

Recently I've been spending a lot of time on the 9th floor of Auckland City Hospital - Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU) is currently the temporary home of my third child, born three weeks ago today.*  Even here, perhaps especially here given the stress of it all, there is violence against women perpetrated by men.

When Early first arrived I was admitted to Ward 96 and he was in nearby Ward 92.  There is a security door between the two wards, which requires a swipe card and only the mothers of babies in Ward 92, who are themselves in Ward 96, are allowed the cards.  Any visitors to my baby were only allowed in, one at a time, with me or the baby's father.  It seemed a bit over the top, until it became apparent that there was a mother and baby in the wards who had a father attempting to visit despite her strong desire for him not to do so.  To keep her safe, and the babies, hers and ours, it was necessary to be super vigilant about that door between Ward 96 and Ward 92, and no doubt at reception for NICU proper, because even here, even in the newborn ward of a hospital, there was a threat of violence.

Then there was this very sad sad story in Whangarei, unfolding at the same time that we were all guarding that door on the 9th floor:
Rachal, 20, died in Whangarei Hospital on June 10 after suffering a severe asthma attack at home. She was eight-and-a-half months pregnant. Her baby was delivered by caesarean section while she was in a coma, but he died in Starship the following day. He was named Robert....Rachal was in the care of the Dingwall Trust, a care and protection facility in Papatoetoe, South Auckland, from nine until she turned 17.The trust's director, Tracie Shipton, says staff had serious concerns about what would happen to Rachal if she returned home. It was also feared she wouldn't get the medical treatment she needed for her asthma and eczema.
The violence is real, the threat is real; it happens everywhere even if we don't see it.  There is a lot of talk about terrorism, focused on the international scene, but it seems to me that so much terror, so much fear and harm, is in everyday lives because of men who hate women, men who abuse women. 
 At the root of most of the recent mass murders we have seen has been a man (or a group of men) who do not see women as full humans; Dylann Roof (Charleston, USA) reckoned he was protecting white women from rape by black men, yet the people he shot dead were mostly black women, and his extreme racism seems to have been coupled with an incredibly patriarchal (at best) attitude to females; Man Haron Monis (Sydney, Australia) had a history of violence against women which, had it been addressed, may have averted the Lindt Cafe siege; Anders Breivik (Norway) blamed feminism for eroding the culture of Europe and advocated for a resurgence of patriarchy; Jody Hunt (West Virginia, USA) killed his ex-girlfriend first; Elliot Rodger (California, USA) specifically drove to a sorority house for his second batch of killings, to punish women in general for rejecting him.  
We cannot properly address and eliminate violence against women until we address and eliminate sexism.  Until we can create a society where women are equal, both in perception and reality, we will not stop all these deaths, assaults and rapes.  And we have to at least try.


*  Baby and I are both doing well thanks, just arrived v early for no discernable reason. 

Thursday, 1 August 2013

The Claytons "Safety Review" saga continues

I've already written about the Glenn Inquiry "safety review", which recommended better PR, posher data systems, and fewer troublesome experts involved in advising people with little background in domestic violence how to ensure the safety of survivors was paramount.

Radio New Zealand were all over this story this morning.   Turns out there are more problems with the "safety review" - the authors didn't actually speak to any of the people who were conducting the interviews with survivors, so the descriptions of what was occurring are just plain false according to several former interviewers who spoke with Radio New Zealand.   The "safety review" authors were not available to comment apparently. 

Have a listen for yourself.  This is all shady if not outright shonky.  Signing off safety - with a side order of character assassination of those people raising the concerns in the first place - when you haven't even spoken to the people doing the actual interviews with survivors? 

If this was public money being spent, I hope this would be leading to resignations.  If this was public money being spent, the bullying nature of what appear to be false claims about a number of people's professional practice in the "safety review" would hopefully be dealt by the ending of contracts.  If this was public money being spent, the fact that Ruth Herbert and Jessica Trask were essentially whistle-blowers would hopefully lead to them being protected, not to attempts to professionally demolish them.

I guess it's one of the benefits of the private sector dealing with domestic violence - safety is literally for sale, and there are few ways to hold such shonky practise to account.  Good on Radio New Zealand for trying, and good on the 28 Think Tank members who have voted with their feet.

Just how much does a "safety review" go for on the free market these days?

Tuesday, 23 July 2013

The Glenn Inquiry and selling out safety

What should feminists make of the Glenn Inquiry?

Owen Glenn pledged $80 million to sort out child abuse and domestic violence, including a $2 million inquiry to answer the question:
"If New Zealand was leading the world in addressing child abuse and domestic violence what would that look like?"
The appointment of Ruth Herbert to head the Inquiry was the best decision Owen Glenn could have made, and her swift recruitment of the most well-connected (to community) and well-informed (about the dynamics of domestic violence) to advise this Inquiry was inspired.  Her staff choices were not half bad either, including several women with many, many years of experience responding to domestic violence and working with survivors.

Disclaimer: I know Ruth Herbert professionally, and have done for many years.  She is, in my opinion, the single most brilliant feminist structural thinker working in the gendered violence sector in New Zealand.  Which doesn't mean I always agree with her - but it does mean if I was going to pick one feminist to change structures which fail to ensure victims of domestic violence are safe, and fail to hold people using abuse to account, it would be her.

All swims along nicely.  There's a website, community meetings starting to take place, and of course that Think Tank.

Then in May, Ruth Herbert and her Operations Manager Jessica Trask both resign.  In just over a month, 28 of the 38 original Think Tank members have left, and the old allegation of assault which Mr Glenn pled no contest for becomes public knowledge.  Other staff members also resign.

Ms Herbert and Ms Trask make it clear there are confidentiality issues in the leaving of the Glenn Inquiry, and who knows how much legal action someone with Mr Glenn's fortune can buy?  So the exact issues at play in all these resignations are sketchy.

But was has been made clear is the issues at the root of this were safety.  In the words of one of the former interviewers for the Inquiry:
"I think the safety, the literal life and death safety of these people is in jeopardy at the moment under an inquiry being run by people who haven't experienced [domesticviolence] and have no understanding of how real it is." She hoped experts were"warning off"victims who had been asked to co-operate.
It's hard to see how this is salvageable, but then to complicate matters further, a quite astonishing review is made public, which makes allegations about the practices of the Inquiry under Ms Herbert and Ms Trask.  Allegations, it turns out, they were unaware of:
"We were unaware the report was being released and were given no opportunity to respond to the direct criticisms about us contained in the report before it was published.  We continue to be unable to speak publicly due to the confidentiality clause in the contracts we had with the Glenn Family Foundation. We are now seeking legal advice."
This is astonishing precisely because, if the problem was Ms Herbert, why have 28 out of 38 Think Tank members resigned because she left?

It's hard not to see this "independent" review as a contracted cover-up, with just a little bit of utu thrown in.  The report says the authors were "engaged" but it's unclear if that means the Inquiry paid them, or if they were paid, how much.  The authors make their priorities clear when they state:
the most critical challenge for the Board was to secure stability within the organisation, ensure that the leadership and management could function effectively and was sufficiently resilient to withstand any attempt to dislodge the purpose of the inquiry.
They go on to make a bunch of recommendations about data storage, governance and dis-establishing the Think Tank.  They also think the Glenn Inquiry should hire a PR specialist in there pronto. 

Today a critique of this review surfaced, from a former Think Tank member Rachel Simon-Kumar.  If you read one link to this post, go to this one:

Nowhere in the executive summary is there an actual definition of the term "safety" that the authors are trying to evaluate....
The concern with this lack of rigour is that the report focuses on aspects of personal relationships that are irrelevant to safety (ideal, though, for character assassination) but alongside, misses out on key issues central to understanding it.
Central to women-centred research is the understanding that safety is not merely about data collection, storage or retrieval; it is equally about who interprets the data and draws conclusions from them. The values and the framing of the findings is central to ensuring safety of voices of survivors.
In the end, it seems the inquiry would have been served best if a fully objective review had been undertaken by experts who have the skill sets to assess women-centred research. Until such time, it is safe to say that the perils that others have pointed to still persist.

I'm going to leave you with the words of Louise Nicholas, who can always be relied on to put the safety of survivors first.  She withdrew her support immediately after Ruth Herbert and Jessica Trask resigned. 
When I heard that Ruth Herbert and Jessica Trask had resigned from the inquiry I didn't believe there was any safety left for survivors I was going to support through this inquiry.  My own personal opinion is it isn't safe for survivors.

Dance for Women's Refuge


If you're in Wellington this weekend, and want to support the work of Te Whare Rokiroki and Wellington Women's Refuge while dancing to funky dub and stuff, get on down to the San Francisco Bath House.  For those of you unfamiliar with the venue, it's upstairs and not wheelchair accessible.

Thursday, 6 June 2013

Refuge needs you in 2013


It's that time of year again, when services that literally save lives have to stand on street corners asking for money, because they do not have enough to pay their staff.  It's all about priorities, you know.

While I can't wait for the day we don't have to do this, the two Refuges in Wellington (Te Whare Rokiroki Maori Women's Refuge and Wellington Women's Refuge) need help collecting.  Every year the Wellington public gives very generously to us - and part of that relies on us having lots of collectors out.

If you can give an hour or two on Friday 19th July or Saturday 20th July, email wwrcollectors@gmail.com or call (04) 9390455 to book a time.  

If you're not in Wellington and want to support your local Refuge, get in touch.  Many other Refuges around the country also organise Annual Appeal events including street collections.

Tuesday, 23 April 2013

I want to hear the All Blacks say It’s Not OK

SaveaAll Black - and pin up boy for the anti family violence It's Not OK campaign - Julian Savea has just been charged with common assault after the Police went to his house to deal with a domestic violence incident.  He says:
"I will say my partner and I had an argument, I did some things that are wrong, that I shouldn't have done, and I apologise for that."
We don't know what happened yet, but we do know Mr Savea has been ordered by the Judge to have no contact with his partner until the case is settled, including not visiting their home.  Common assault carries a maximum sentence of one year.

Julian Savea is 6 foot 4 and weighs 108 kg, a man trained to be as strong and physically hard as possible.  Someone that size belting you would be terrifying.

We don't know what happened yet, but we do know that physical violence in relationships is often just one aspect of controlling behaviour, and that the impact on children - whether they are the ones being assaulted or not - is significant.  Mr Savea has a one year old baby.  So far, the only conversation about this baby seeing/hearing/being around their mother being assaulted by their father is whether Mr Savea will be able to see them regularly.

Related LinkWe don't know what happened yet, but we've been told quite a bit about this case.  Not from the victim - we know her name and that's all.  But the media have been busy, garnering quotes and background material to help us know what's going on.

Mr Savea's parents, though acknowledging they don't know anything about the incident, are sure it couldn't have been 'particularly violent'.  The incident that "landed the All Black in court would not have been any more serious than a push," they say.

The Hurricanes Chief Executive, Mr Savea's boss, says:
"Obviously, we are disappointed to have this situation emerge, but we must now let the judicial process run its course."
New Zealand Rugby chief executive Steve Tew is also disappointed:
"We were very disappointed to learn of this incident and Julian's subsequent charge. We appreciate this is a distressing time for all those affected and we are also helping support the family.....
"Without judging the rights or wrongs of this case, we are concerned that this is another incident involving a young player.  We need to find out whether we are doing enough to help these young men cope with the pressures of the professional game."
Precisely no one around Julian Savea is naming what he did as a problem.  It's disappointing the situation emerged, that we learnt about it, that he was charged.  But the common assault itself?  Pah, not particularly violent.

Steve Tew is right to point to some problems with rugby culture.  Julian Savea is not even the only current or recent All Black to have gone to court after being charged with domestic violence.  Sitiveni Sivivatu and Adam Thomson have both faced charges in recent years.  (Thomson was found not guilty because his partner told the court it wasn't as serious as her initial call to the Police and the independent eye-witness accounts suggested.)

I'd like to suggest something the All Blacks could do, if they really want to be seen as taking violence against women seriously.  Stop making excuses and create a serious consequence.

Men found guilty of violence against women should not be able to represent New Zealand in any kind of sport, ever again.

When you play sport for a country, you're representing an imagined community.  You stand for something, a cypher of belonging, creating a solidarity with other people purely on the basis of place.

That's not possible when you commit crimes of violence against others.  Men who bash their partners should be unable to be All Blacks, or Black Caps, or Black Sticks, or Tall Blacks or any other kind of athlete which means they represent people from this place.

Because if you bash women, you don't represent all people from this place.

I don't care if those sportsmen still get to play professional sport.  It's a different argument for me.  But I don't want to see another All Black representing me with a violence conviction for using their huge, muscular bodies to hurt their partners and get what they want.

I doubt I'm alone in that.  So come on All Blacks - is this OK or not?

Tuesday, 19 March 2013

TVNZ smacks their b*tch up

This is kinda shocking.  It's a social experiment, a staged scenario with a woman with facial bruising behaving nervous and scared in a very public place.  After some time a man walks over to her, begins verbally abusing her, this becomes louder, then he drags her away with her resisting.

The social experiment from TVNZ is not to see whether we will object to their backing track - apparently "Smack My Bitch Up" by the Prodigy is controversial but doesn't impact on the public good of the story - it's to see if members of the public will intervene.

I'm completely in favour of promoting community responsibility to end sexual and domestic violence, racialised violence and homophobic, biphobic and transphobic violence.  I've designed programmes in how to do that well around bullying and sexual violence in particular.  One of the tools I've used have been short films like this, which show what happens when people intervene.

The trouble with this short film is that in the first scenario, no one intervenes at all.  A crowded Auckland park allows a man to drag a heavily bruised woman, loudly protesting, away.  In the second scenario, run, different people in the park, same scenario, a number of men intervene, one of whom blasts New Zealand culture for allowing child and woman abuse to flourish because we turn a blind eye to obvious abuse.

What was this about for TVNZ?  Their appalling choice of backing music makes it look like it was all a bit of a laugh.  Their focus on all the reasons people don't intervene - including putting up an image of brave bystander Austin Hemmings not once but twice makes it look like they don't believe community responsibility is possible.  Their slavish hyping up of one young man's potential for violence felt more like watching the build up to a boxing match than anything else.  Their joky, oh-imagine-looking-like-a-dick defense of choosing not to intervene isn't that far off the "it's just a domestic" excuse of the 1950s.

The psychologist afterwards could have been interesting, but was clearly not up-to-speed with recent developments in sexual and domestic violence.  "Ethical bystanding" or the promotion of skills and ideas about intervening in precursor situations to violence is probably the fastest growing, best evaluated type of sexual violence prevention going.  We know when it works and why - when people recognise the risk in a potential situation, can think of some options, and decide to take action.

I don't want to deny the horror of the murder of Austin Hemmings, or the fear that many of us feel when confronted by physical violence.  Nor do I want to pretend stepping in is easy or straightforward.

But if this SevenSharp clip had any sense of public responsibility, wouldn't they have explored some things people in this situation could have done? Off the top of my head:

Low level, before the "abuser" turned up - asked the woman if you could sit with her, get her a coffee, ask her if she was ok, if there was anyone you could call for her, if she needed any help, if she needed the Police or Women's Refuge. 

Mid level, when the abuser is starting to verbally abuse her, moving closer and making it clear you are watching, asking them both if everything is ok, asking other people around you to be part of this because you are worried for her safety, asking her if she needed the Police or Women's Refuge.

High level, when he is starting to shout and drag her off, telling them both you are calling the Police.  Doing that.

There are more "heroic" options of course.  But for most people, those are not manageable, or even advisable.  And it's quite possible, with this scenario, that the woman concerned would decide not to seek help when her abuser was there, and would be too scared to engage with anyone else.  This time.

It's also possible that cocooning her in public - forming a protective shield around her by making it clear what's happening is not ok - will become part of her journey around recognising that violence is unacceptable and that there might just be pathways out.

Domestic violence is potentially the trickiest kind to intervene in, because the web of power, control and violence is woven over time.  You're not stopping a random, if planned, act of abuse.  You're witnessing a part of someone else's relationship, and whatever it looks like to you, the person being victimised will have to weigh up their choices based on their realistic assessments of what will happen to them if they talk.

That still shouldn't make it something we give up on.  I've intervened in domestic violence in my neighbourhood, my public life and my friendship circles.  Except with friends, I'm almost never sure I've got it right.  But I'm damn sure I don't want to live with zoning out to "Smack My Bitch Up" while I make jokes about not wanting to be a bit of a dick.

Tuesday, 12 February 2013

Refuge volunteers in Wellington


Interested in volunteering at either one of the two Wellington Refuges?  

Te Whare Rokiroki Maori Women's Refuge and Wellington Women's Refuge are seeking new volunteers to staff their crisis line and be involved in Refuge work generally.  There are limited places in the comprehensive training programme which begins in March, so if you're interested in supporting women and children to be safer from domestic violence, get in touch with their training co-ordinator for more details.

Saturday, 9 February 2013

Guest Post: Coalition for the Safety of Women and Children

Many thanks to the Coalition for allowing us to post their comprehensive submission to the review of the Family Court.  If you want to submit on this review, get your thoughts into parliament by February 13th.  It is important to submit - Men's Rights websites are also encouraging submissions.

Key Concerns
This Bill will not keep children and women safe from violence and abuse. For example, key provisions in the existing Care of Children Act (COCA), Sections 58 – 62, are being replaced with less robust clauses which do not prioritise the safety of women and children.

There are no provisions in this Bill to screen and identify domestic violence or risks to children such as neglect and poor parenting.
·     The current judicial context prioritises shared care of children. The new process, especially its focus on alternative dispute resolution, will further compromise women’s ability to keep children safe from abuse and neglect.
·      There is no provision for quality control or training to ensure that the mediation/dispute resolution services will be provided by people who understand the risks and dynamics of violent and abusive relationships.
·     The new costs introduced to applicant parties will be a deterrent to going to dispute resolution and/or court.  Anyone without funds is likely to abandon or not start the process. This will mean more families, in particular women and children, will continue living in unsafe circumstances. These imposed costs will prevent many women accessing justice and being able to leave abusive relationships.
·       The lack of professional legal support will put many women at risk.
·       Domestic and sexual violence does not affect everyone equally. Maori women and children in particular are subjected to higher levels of both violence and poverty. Using Maori concepts, this Bill should resource Maori entitlement to live free from violence.

Many of the ideas proposed in this Bill were tried in Australia under Commonwealth law changes brought in in 2006.

“In November 2011, the Commonwealth Parliament enacted reforms that amended a number of key sections of the Australian Family Law Act 1975 (Cth). The genesis of the new act emerged from a growing unease among researchers and practitioners across several disciplines, following the radical revision of family law undertaken by the previous government in 2006.   In particular, there was substantial concern about the ways in which families experiencing domestic and family violence were being managed within the new family law system. (ADFVCH 2012)[1] Many of the provisions have subsequently been repealed, as numerous studies demonstrated that women and children were at greater harm of violence, abuse and death from abusive men as a consequence of the changes[2]. 

We strongly recommend the comprehensive Australian study by Wilcox, K.  Thematic review 2. Intersection of Family Law and Family and Domestic Violence (2012) Australian Domestic & Family Violence Clearinghouse.  University of New South Wales Sydney NSW.
This paper outlines the evidence of harm caused by the implementation of the 2006 legislation. 

We question why the Government is proposing to implement these ideas which have been proven not to work; put women and children at risk of emotional, physical and sexual harm; make the systems available to men and women less regulated; and greatly increase costs to women who are trying to escape violence and move their children to a place of safety.

What can the terms ‘welfare and best interests of the child’ mean if they don’t primarily ensure the right to live in safety and, in the long term, the enhancement of a child’s resilience and his or her ability to flourish?  All of the work on child resilience stresses that for resilience to develop, the violence that the child experiences needs to stop and the non-violent caregiver must be made safe from on-going violence.  This Bill will not achieve either of these objectives.

Background to the Bill

Women and children’s lives and their emotional, sexual and physical safety have already been put at increased risk by a number of legislation and policy changes that have occurred over the past four years.  These changes include:

1.       Fewer protection orders being made final

2.       New police investigation guidelines and policies which mean that only serious domestic violence will be investigated and fewer cases will be taken to court[3]

3.     The changes to the Solicitor General's guidelines for prosecution, 2010, which increased the threshold for evidence for crimes to be prosecuted.  This means that in cases where it is he says/she says (domestic and sexual violence) the prosecutor is less likely to go forward with the case.  We are certain this is a major reason for the decrease in domestic violence prosecutions in the last 2 years, especially in Auckland.

4.         The agenda that has been adopted by the courts makes the assumption of shared care the default position for orders in most cases.

5.         Family legal professionals and Judges appear to be working with a number of misconceptions about abusive men and the safety of women and children. This erroneous construction of the nature of domestic violence includes the idea that violence stops when women leave abusive relationships, an abusive husband/partner can still be a good father and women who have concerns about their ex-partner’s violence or neglect of children (or of their own safety during handovers etc.) are hostile, alienating and obstructive[4].

There is also an assumption that men’s poor parenting is just lack of practice that will improve over time and that children’s contact with their father outweighs the harm caused by spending unsupervised time with a father with substance abuse or mental health problems or who neglects the welfare of his child and forgets to feed, clean or interact positively with their child during access visits.

6.      The absence of any mention of domestic or sexual violence in The White Paper for vulnerable children urgently needs addressing.

7.         The changes to Housing New Zealand (a) which make it much more difficult to qualify for a house, (b) Women’s Refuge has been told that domestic violence is no longer a priority for the allocation of housing and (c) Housing NZ now make women who hold the tenancy liable for damage done by an ex-partner.

8.         Decreased funding to sexual and family violence services, including the loss of funding to sexual violence support services resulting in (nationwide) 1/3 cutting staff or hours.

9.        All of the changes to the provision of welfare that disproportionately discriminates against women and children, which serves to further impoverish and marginalise sole parents, including changes that prioritise paid work over parenting.

10.    The changes to Legal Aid which make it much more difficult for women to get legal aid and therefore have access to justice.

11.       The Crimes Amendment Act which has the capacity to further abuse and punish women who are living in a violent relationship and, as a consequence of living with sexual and domestic violence, are unable to protect themselves and their children, by criminalising them for this failure.

12.      The Family Violence Taskforce is no longer providing leadership to the sector or to government.  

13.       The review of Community Law services, especially the specialised services such as disability and youth, which appear to be aimed solely at saving money – not to improve access to justice.

14.       The Bill to change provisions for child support payments to custodial parents, including shared care measured as two nights a week and fewer sanctions for non-payment.

15.      Judicial approaches to parenting orders, which fail to implement the law by instead adopting non-empirically, based “typologies of violence” which trivialise the potential for, and effects of, violence against women and children. Specifically, this refers to the violence that occurs at separation or within 18 months thereof.  Based on lethality and serious injury risk assessments, this is the most dangerous time for women and their children, but Courts too often see violence at this time as not indicating a predilection for, or pattern of, violence by the perpetrator.

16.       The all too common failure by District and Family Court judges to focus on the safety of children and abused women in sentencing and parenting order cases.

No one who turns to the legal system for protection should be further abused by the processes employed by the Court. There is ample evidence that this has happened, and continues to happen, when court processes do not take account of the complexities of intimate violence, or the experiences of women victims who are caught up in Court processes[5].

Domestic violence legislation and judicial approaches to it give and legitimise messages to police, perpetrators, victims and society about what is acceptable behaviour in both in intimate relationships and with respect to children. The legal system colludes with violence unless it gives clear and unambiguous messages that domestic violence is wrong and will not be tolerated. Section 5 of the Domestic Violence Act (DVA) specifically states that “violence in all its forms is unacceptable behaviour” but this is not the approach commonly taken by our Courts, even in cases of serious physical violence.

Women suffer many mental health/emotional effects as a consequence of living with sexual, emotional and physical abuse.  They may also be dealing with children who are themselves victims of domestic violence. These include:
·       On-going fear – even after separation
·       Lack of volition  and extreme exhaustion
·       Diminished ability to deal with stress
·       Trying to be superwoman
·       Hyper-vigilance
·       Suspicion
·       Ongoing severe trauma responses
·       Isolation
·       Disassociation
·       Fragile grasp on reality if there has been emotional abuse and manipulation
·       Depression
·       Increased risk of suicide ideation and attempts

All of these things make it more difficult for women to function and to be perceived as credible and capable.  Women may also develop substance abuse problems related to living with abuse.  This further diminishes their credibility in the eyes of the judiciary and others.

The manifestation of desperation that takes place when women are   battling to find a place of safety for themselves and their children means that many people disregard what women are saying and view them as unstable or obstructive.  This increases women’s fear and desperation and makes them appear even less credible.  Expecting women in this situation to negotiate their own way through a complex and unsupportive system is inevitably denying them safety and justice.


Specific concerns about the Bill
The Government has stated that the primary purpose of these reforms is to save the Government money.  The results of this Bill will prevent people, especially abused women and poorer people, from being able to access justice via the family court system.  While the Bill talks about improved responses to victims of family violence there is nothing in this legislation that indicates how domestic violence will be identified and how victims of violence will be resourced and protected.  Overall, these changes are likely to keep more women and children trapped in abusive relationships - they won’t be able to afford to leave.

This in turn will increase inequalities in this country. 
·       Maori women will be the most impacted by this Bill – as they experience the highest rates of domestic violence and are often economically marginalised.
·       Already marginalised populations will be further disadvantaged by this Bill, including refugee and migrant women, Pacific women and poor women
·       All abused women risk becoming even more economically and socially marginalised as they will be denied the use of the justice system to leave abusive relationships.

The Bill states that part of the purpose of the amendments is to make the proceedings less adversarial.  However, for abused women and others it seems that this system will potentially increase danger and stress and prolong the proceedings, as the costs will cause hardship or discourage engagement with the court.  The lack of legal representation will increase the time taken to present information, will enable abusers to use court time to question, intimidate and criticise their partners and make it more difficult for judges to understand the information that is being presented.   All of this increases the chances of lack of access to justice for abused women and their children. 

Expecting a woman to go ‘one-to-one’ against her abuser puts women and children at increased risk of mental, physical and sexual harm.  It fails to understand that placation by women, of perpetrators, is a primary strategy that women use to protect themselves and their children and that this will be played out in dispute resolution and court processes.  The Australian experience of child homicides has resulted in the strengthening of domestic violence provisions in parenting order legislation.  One would have hoped that the deaths of the Bristol children would have been enough of a price for legislation to focuses on and prioritise the safety of children.

There are a number of concepts used in the Bill to indicate that the protection of abused and vulnerable people is of prime concern with this Bill.  However, there is no substance behind this language.

a.      Page one of the Bill says:  ".... children and vulnerable people....”   Nowhere does it say who 'vulnerable’ people are or how the court and pre-court processes are going to be responsive to these people.

b.     ".... to improve the court's response to victims of domestic violence"  Nowhere does it say how they are going to do this.

c.      Page 2 says "....support children and vulnerable people who most need
protection"  How is this Bill and the processes it outlines going to support them?  

d.     Page 3 says " enabling a more flexible and proportionate response to
allegations of violence'.  What does the Bill mean by a more flexible and 'proportionate' response?

e.      Page 4 lists how the Bill will supposedly 'Improve the court's response to domestic violence'

f.      “The Bill better supports vulnerable people, including through improving responsiveness to domestic violence. It does this through—
·       expanding the definition of psychological abuse in the Domestic Violence Act 1995 to include financial and economic abuse:
·       increasing the maximum sentence for breaching a protection order from 2 years to 3 years:
·       providing for greater flexibility in the development and delivery of mandatory non-violence programmes.” 

None of these concepts will protect abused women and children unless the systems that are set up to protect them are more robust – police, courts, crisis services and social service responses.  Currently the government is reducing service response to domestic violence in all of these areas.

We are pleased to see that economic and financial abuse is being added to the definition.  What will this mean in practice?  Does it extend to the non-payment of child support or generally withholding economic support for children?  How will this be identified under the current constraints on protection orders and women’s testimony about violence and abuse being ignored by courts?

Pre-court dispute resolution and parenting processes
The Bill provides a separate pathway where abuse is identified, but this pathway is only available where there is “proof” of physical abuse. With the Police estimating that only 18% of domestic violence is reported (with much less than this actually resulting in a conviction) many mothers in coercive and violent relationships are going to end up in mediation.  It is important that professionals, who are trained in the dynamics of domestic violence, carry out systematic screening.  

Women who experience domestic violence should not be pressured into dispute resolution approaches with perpetrators. Nor should they be expected to attend stopping violence programmes with them (allowed by the Bill).  The enforced family resolution and parenting programmes will put women and children at risk from abusers.  Abusers will use these opportunities to disparage their partner’s story, parenting, credibility and ability.  This is a common tactic that is already frequently used by abusers in counseling and mediation processes.   It is also dangerous for some abusers to know where a woman will be at a certain time.  Women have been murdered going to and from post separation meetings with their ex-partners.  A NZ example is Kathryn Coughlin who was killed emerging from a Family Court ordered counseling session[6]. The centre understood that they were dealing with a separating couple and were not aware of the homicidal risk of the perpetrator/husband.

There is no evidence that mediation, especially which fails to recognise power and control, will work.  In fact, there is only evidence that it does not.  Most recently this has been identified in Australia where the legislation mandating pre-court mediation has been repealed because of the danger posed to women and children[7]. 

In his 1993 review of the Family Court, Judge Boshier stated that mediation should not be used in the context of domestic violence because of the inherent power disparities between the parties. Judge Boshier specifically concluded that:

“Domestic violence, as a reflection of power, is obviously an important concept when it comes to considering how a Court process should operate when domestic violence exists. We believe that mediation should be avoided by the judicial process as a legitimate means of dispute resolution in such circumstances.[8]

The costs of these processes will be prohibitive for many women wanting to leave abusive partners. Many women in abusive relationships have no access to money of their own (as is being acknowledged by this Bill) and therefore have no resources to share the very high costs that this Bill imposes.  Many women will have barely enough for themselves and their children.  This also provides another avenue for men to abuse women by refusing to pay their share, thus preventing women from being able to make progress with their attempts to leave their abusive partners.

Who will run the dispute resolution and parenting programmes?    How will the providers be selected and what training will they be required to have?  It is very concerning that the Bill does not set standards regarding the providers and the processes they will employ.

We are concerned about how well children will be treated in these processes if they have no voice and no opportunity for representation.  The Bill does not make provision for who will decide what the best outcomes are for the children.

Clause 27: requires parties to obtain the court’s leave to commence proceedings if it is less than 2 years since a judgment on similar proceedings.  This would mean that women have to go through a longer procedure to challenge a decision which may put children at risk.   This relates to a recent trend in New Zealand, which was also specifically used in Australia, to grant custody to the parent who will facilitate shared custody - the ‘Friendly parent’.   In Australia this provision was found to deter women from disclosing violence[9].  This practice, whether legislated or informal policy, will have the same effect in New Zealand.

The voices and safety of children 
“New section 4, which provides for the paramountcy of a child’s welfare and best interests, makes it clear that, in respect of a person who is seeking to have a role in the upbringing of a child, account may be taken of that person’s conduct to the extent that it unnecessarily delays decisions, is obstructive, or is otherwise relevant.”  This section may seem to be constructive as it seemingly prevents men from using the courts to further harass and abuse their partners.  However, if we examine the way this concept is being used in the courts it is increasingly used to paint women, who are concerned about their own and their children’s safety, as obstructive and alienating[10].  How, therefore, are women’s voices to be heard regarding the safety of their children?   Will they be branded as “obstructers” or “alienators” if they continue to articulate concerns about the safety of their children when they are with their abusive fathers during unsupervised contact?  Men’s bad parenting is seemingly increasingly acceptable to judges while women are penalised and criminalised for trying to keep their children safe.[11]   In what must surely not be in accord with the paramountcy principle, various reports demonstrate how a violent father’s contact “rights” trump safety concerns about the child.  Examples of unsafe contact orders in the name of the father’s right to “a normal relationship with his child” are A v X and B v M[12].  These are two High Court judgments that dealt with this phrase as used by a Family Court judge in justifying unsupervised contact to a recidivist abuser.

Section 5. “The principles relating to a child’s welfare and best interests are that—      
 “(a)  a child’s safety must be protected and, in particular, a child must be protected from all forms of violence as defined in section 3(2) to (5) of the Domestic Violence Act 1995:
“(b)         a child’s care, development, and upbringing should be primarily the responsibility of his or her parents and guardians:
“(c)          a child’s care, development, and upbringing should be facilitated by ongoing consultation and co-operation between his or her parents, guardians and any other person who has a role in his or her care:
“(d)         a child should have continuity in his or her care, development, and upbringing:
“(e)          a child’s relationship with his or her parents, family group, whānau, hapu or iwi should be preserved and strengthened:
“(f) a child’s identity (including without limitation, his or her culture, language, and religious denomination and practice) should be preserved and strengthened.”

These are all good aims; however, there is frequently a contradiction between ensuring the safety of children and the assumption that parents should collaborate and consult with each other.

When there is violence in a relationship ongoing contact between parents can be dangerous for women and harmful for children. Indeed, the Ontario Domestic Violence Fatality Review has found repeatedly that the most dangerous time for a woman is when she leaves an abusive relationship and takes her children.    This is what Sections 58 – 62 of the existing Act were intended to address.  This Bill is potentially very dangerous without these provisions and it appears that putting the safety provision first is not significant. Neither is the word “must” rather than “should”.   Kacem v Bashir[13], a recent Supreme Court case, has found that none of these subsections takes precedent over the others.  Therefore, the on-going relationship is weighted as being as important as the safety of the child.   Section 5 should highlight the safety provision as   predominant- as it now does in Australia.

“New section 7 provides for the appointment of a lawyer to represent a child in proceedings. An appointment may be made in any case where the court has concerns for the safety or well-being of the child and considers that an appointment is necessary.”  How will this lack of safety be ascertained?  If there is no protection order, or if the parents are trying to represent themselves, this becomes a “he said, she said” argument in front of the judge.  As we know, abused women often seem more chaotic and less credible than abusive men. – As a result women are more likely to be labeled as obstructive and to have their concerns minimised or ignored.  Can children ask for a lawyer?  The present rule is much wider, and calls for the appointment of a lawyer to represent the child in all contested cases.  This is a real cut and appears to be done just to save money.  There are now tighter age restrictions for children to appeal a decision affecting them, than in the current COCA.  How will this impact on children’s wellbeing, sense of agency, and ability to keep themselves safe?

Perhaps most worrying is the Bill’s intention to delete clauses in the Care of Children Act known as the “Bristol clauses”.  In New Plymouth in 1995 Christine Bristol was trying to escape from the on-going violence of her husband.  Christine had had three Protection Orders against Alan Bristol who the police had just charged with sexual assault.  Despite being known as a violent spouse, he was thought of as an excellent parent; indeed,
the Family Court had awarded him sole custody of the three girls.  In a case that horrified the nation, Mr. Bristol murdered their three young children and then killed himself.  Christine demanded a Ministerial Inquiry into why the Family Court had awarded a violent parent custody of his children.

In response to the Bristol murders the Government introduced a law requiring judges to undertake careful risk-assessments before allowing abusive parents day-to-day care of their children.  These measures have been constantly undermined since their introduction and today are often ignored altogether by the Courts.  The Bill will abolish these clauses and leave children at risk.  Christine Bristol has spoken out against the Bill emphasising that the law must prioritise children’s safety over violent parent’s access to their children.  Given that New Zealand has the highest rates of child homicides in the OECD; it is amazing that one cost saving measure in the Bill is to remove the rebuttable presumption against unsafe contact arrangements with violent parents, generally fathers.  Rather than reinforce the focus on the safety of children (as required by the UN Convention on the Rights of the Child, of which NZ is a signatory) this Bill will further allow father’s rights to triumph over children’s welfare. 

Recent research highlights unequivocally the close links between domestic violence and child abuse.  Under the NZ Domestic Violence Act 1995, abuse is defined as both the direct abuse of the child and the harmful effects on the child of living with and witnessing domestic violence[14].   Depending on the context, methodology and definitions used, it has been found that between 30% and 65% of the children of abused women are themselves abused.  Therefore, many of these children sustain the psychological “double whammy” of being both witnesses to violence against their mother and themselves being the targets of their father’s violence.

Abuse, whether a child is abused directly or victimised by exposure to the abuse of the other parent, is de facto poor parenting.  Any arrangement that gives the abusive parent shared parenting or unsupervised contact will create unacceptable risks for both the children and the abused parent and provide the abusive parent with too many opportunities to continue a pattern of intimidation and control.  This means that requiring on-going negotiations between the parents over major decisions involving the children is unacceptable, allowing the abused parent and children to remain hostage to the abusive parent’s agenda. 

Sturge and Glaser, psychologists from whom the UK Solicitor General commissioned a Report on DV and Children asserted: There should be no automatic assumption that contact with a previously or currently violent parent is in the child’s interests; if anything, the assumption should be in the opposite direction and the case of the non-residential parent should be one of proving why he can offer something of such benefit not only to the child, but to the child’s situation, (i.e. act in a way that is supportive to the child’s situation with his or her resident parent and able to be sensitive to and respond appropriately to the child’s needs), that contact should be considered[15].

This is what sections 60 and 61 mandate to our Judges. With their repeal, the rebuttable presumption against shared parenting and/or unsupervised contact will be eliminated from our law with no guidance to Judges for how to deal with cases where children are either the direct targets and/or witnesses to domestic violence against a parent or caregiver.

What is more important to the functioning of the State than the safety of its citizens? NZ guarantees this under the NZ Bill of Rights Act as well as by being signatories to UNCROC and CEDAW.  Given our OECD record on child homicides, providing safety to our children and their mothers needs to be of paramount concern to the Family Court.  So why are sections 59-61 being repealed, except to save money, or as a concession to father’s rights groups?

“Clause 22 replaces section 133, which allows the court to request the preparation of a cultural, medical, psychiatric, or psychological report on a child who is the subject of an application for guardianship or a parenting order. The new provisions—
     limit the court’s power to request reports;
     enable the court, when requesting a report, to make directions regarding the child and parties meeting with the report writer;
     limit the matters that may be covered in a court-requested psychological report;
     prohibit the preparation and presentation of critiques of court-requested psychological reports or second reports on the same matters;
     allow the court, in exceptional circumstances, to approve the preparation and presentation of critiques of court-requested psychological reports or second reports on the same matters.

This provision is about restricting the information that can be provided to the court.  How is a judge to have robust information about the circumstances of a family if very little information can be provided and if reports cannot be critiqued?  As judges have no training in the psychological evaluation of people, how will they determine the validity of the information that is presented to them?  This is not enabling access to justice for the parties involved and also can play into the hands of abusers if the report writer has no understanding of the dynamics of violence.

Principal District Court Judge Jan Doogue has written recently on behalf of the retention of these specialists. Moreover, Judge Doogue underscored how inadequately trained experienced judges were to interview children and ascertain their wishes.

A more constructive approach would be to set up mandatory training for judges, report writers and all other professionals associated with the courts to ensure that all professionals associated with Family Court proceedings are trained to recognise and understand the dynamics of domestic violence, and to allow for critiques of all material presented to the court.

Fees 
Everyone involved “whose income is over the civil legal aid threshold” will have to pay for the dispute resolution and parenting classes.  There is no negotiation of fees.  This means that many low income people will no longer be able to access the Family Court process to resolve their disputes.  This will increase violence and abuse, prevent women from leaving abusive relationships and result in more women and children being harmed or murdered.

“The contract between a private client and an approved family dispute resolution provider will deal with the services that the client is paying for. What the services are will depend on what the private client is able and willing to pay for.”  This clause quite specifically provides for the rich to receive different and enhanced services to those who are poor.  This is a violation of fundamental justice and human rights.

In the Australian experiment with pre-court mediation, the Commonwealth government subsidised the process, providing for one free session and then low fees for ongoing sessions.  This Bill makes the provision of mediation services entirely privatised, without subsidies or constraints on fees.  This privatisation also means that there is no accountability and no statutory oversight of practice, safety, or ethics prescribed. outcomes.  This means that getting things sorted out as quickly as possible could be seen to be more important than ensuring the on-going safety of women and children.  Agreements made in this pre-court mediation will then be turned into Court orders.  If women then want to change them because they are not reflective of the best and safest outcomes for themselves and their children, they may be considered vexatious and have to pay huge court fees.

The Bill specifics that there will be caps on the amount of hours that lawyers, when clients have access to them, are able to work on these cases (hours that they will be paid).  This restricts the access to justice for those involved in complex and dangerous cases.  “Clause 71 amends section 7, which provides that legal aid may be granted for proceedings in a Family Court. The amendment inserts 3 new subsections in section 7. The effect of new subsections (3A) and (3B) is to limit the availability of legal aid in proceedings under the Care of Children Act 2004 in the Family Court.”  This limits the provision of legal aid even more than in previous legislation and policy changes.  Again poor people, especially women, are being denied access to justice.

Legal representation 
We support and endorse the concerns that lawyers and legal academics have expressed about the lack of access to legal representation in these processes.

The lack of professional legal support will put women at risk in a number of ways:
·       they may be unable to articulate their level of risk and what they need to keep themselves and their children safe;
§  men may use the court process to question, cross examine, intimidate and harass women;
§  wealthy men will be able to get legal advice prior to entering court, which will disadvantage their partners if they have no access to joint finances during the separation;
§  who will ensure that information is presented to the courts in a coherent manner? 

Other concerns 
One way this Bill aims to increase responsiveness to domestic violence is by “providing for greater flexibility in the development and delivery of mandatory non-violence programmes.”  What does this mean?  What criteria will be used to accredit these programmes?  What ideological concepts will be acceptable as programme underpinnings?  Who will ensure that the safety of women and children is paramount in these programmes?  This proposal is extremely worrying as many (especially men’s) groups are no longer accepting that men must be held responsible for men’s violence against women.  Instead, these groups are talking about reciprocal partner violence, using the Conflict Tactics Scale to demonstrate that women are as violent as men, and implicating women as being causative of men’s violence against them.

Note: In the standardisation of the Conflict Tactics Scale, which routinely finds men equal to women in conflict tactics, when the level of violence and harm was taken into account men were found to be more likely to cause harm than women and to subject women to more serious levels of violence.

New section 46E enables a Judge to refer to counselling parties to a guardianship or parenting dispute for the purposes of—
   improving their relationship; and
   encouraging compliance with a subsequent court order or direction.
A referral can, however, only be made if the Judge considers that counseling is the best means of fulfilling these purposes.” 

How will this be determined?  Will the judge have an obligation to ensure that robust domestic violence screening has occurred prior to referral to counseling, as evidence suggests that couple counseling is not advisable – and can be dangerous – in cases of domestic violence.

Concern has been expressed by women currently using the family court to resolve disputes with wealthy, abusive partners of situations where wealthy men use the court to keep their ex forever in litigation and to 'starve her out' of any matrimonial settlement.  This power imbalance of wealthy men being able to hire the best lawyer possible, hide money in trusts, etc –means that a number of women are impoverished and harassed by the current process.  This does not mean that men and women shouldn’t have lawyers if they want them.  It does however mean that the lawyers who work in the Family Court should be specially trained to understand the dynamics of domestic violence and be approved to do this work. 

This Bill also means that poor men who have access to legal aid can use the Court process to ensure that women who have more money, and do not have access to legal aid, are stripped of their financial well-being through ongoing Court processes. 

There is also a very strong need for advocates or helpers for women andchildren, to them help navigate their way through the court process and to support them in court when they are worried about their abuser being there.  This could help to address the power imbalance between abusers and abused women and children.

“Section 32  Direction to attend assessment and non-violence
Programme
“(2) The court need not make a direction under subsection (1)
if—
“(a) there is no non-violence programme available that is
appropriate for the respondent, having regard to—
“(i) the respondent’s character; and
“(ii) the respondent’s personal history; and
“(iii) any other relevant circumstances; or
“(b) the court considers there is any other good reason for
not making a direction.”

This direction provides abusive men with many opportunities for avoiding programme attendance.  It also allows for significant issues of injustice, which is being increasingly seen in the Courts where judges seem loath to punish men that they believe are of such ‘good character’ (i.e. from the right side of the tracks) so as not to require a penalty for their offending.  As evidenced by the Bristol case, among many others, it is not just men of ‘bad character’ that abuse women and children.

We urge the Government to withdraw this Bill
This Bill is counter to international evidence and prejudicial to women and children and should be withdrawn.


[1] Wilcox, K. Thematic review 2. Intersection of Family Law and Family and Domestic Violence (2012)  Australian Domestic & Family Violence Clearinghouse.  University of New South Wales Sydney NSW http://www.adfvc.unsw.edu.au/PDF%20files/Thematic%20Review_2_Reissue.pdf
[2] ibid
[4] Elizabeth, V., Gavey, N., Tolmie, & J. (2010). Between a rock and a hard place: resident mothers and the oral dilemmas they face during custody disputes. Feminist Legal Studies, 18, 253-274. 
[5] Coombes L. Morgan M. Blake, D. McGray, S. (2009) Enhancing Safety, Survivors experiences of Viviana’s advocacy at the Waitakere Family Violence Court. Massey university, Palmerston North
He's Just Swapped His Fists for the System'' The Governance of Gender through Custody Law Vivienne Elizabeth, Nicola Gavey and Julia Tolmie    Gender & Society 2012 26: 239 - 261
[6] Robertson, N. R. (1999) Reforming institutional responses to violence against women
A thesis submitted for the degree of Doctor of Philosophy, University of Waikato
[7] Wilcox, K.  Thematic review 2. Intersection of Family Law and Family and Domestic Violence (2012)  Australian Domestic & Family Violence Clearinghouse.  University of New South Wales Sydney NSW   Accessed on January 24th, 2013 from http://www.adfvc.unsw.edu.au/PDF%20files/Thematic%20Review_2_Reissue.pdf
[8] Boshier, P. (1993). The review of the Family Court: A report for the Principal Family Court Judge. Auckland, at p. 119
[9] Wilcox, K.  Thematic review 2. Intersection of Family Law and Family and Domestic Violence (2012)  Australian Domestic & Family Violence Clearinghouse.  University of New South Wales Sydney NSW  p 4/5  Accessed on January 25th, 2013 from http://www.adfvc.unsw.edu.au/PDF%20files/Thematic%20Review_2_Reissue.pdf 
[10] See for example:
Elizabeth, V., Gavey, N., Tolmie, & J. (2010). Between a rock and a hard place: resident mothers and the oral dilemmas they face during custody disputes. Feminist Legal Studies, 18, 253-274.  See also Harrison, C. (2008). Implacably hostile or appropriately protective? Women managing child contact in the context of domestic violence. Violence Against Women, 14(4), 381-405.
Tolmie, J., Elizabeth, V., & Gavey, N. (2010). Is 50:50 shared care a desirable norm following family separation? Raising questions about current family law practices in New Zealand. New Zealand Universities Law Review, 24, 136.
Tolmie, J., Elizabeth, V., & Gavey, N. (2009). Raising questions about the importance of father contact within current family law practices. NZ Family Law Journal, 659-694.
[11] ibid
[12] A v X [2005] NZ Family Law Review 123 (HC)
   B v M [2005] NZ Family Law Review 1036 (HC)
[13] Kacem v Bashir [2010] NZ Family Law Review 884 (SC)
[14] Hamby S, Finkelhor D, Turner H, Ormrod R. The overlap of witnessing partner violence with child maltreatment and other victimizations in a nationally representative survey of youth. Child Abuse and Neglect. 2010;34:734–41.
Edleson JL. The overlap between child maltreatment and woman abuse. VAWnet Applied Research Forum: National Online Resource Center on Violence Against Women, 1999.
[15] Sturge, C.,& Glaser, D. (2000). Contact and domestic violence: the experts’ court report. Family Law, 615-629.