"Fear of a name increases fear of the thing itself."*
Deborah Coddington has gotten all hot under the collar about schools encouraging parents to use correct names for body parts. In this context it was used to teach children about reporting sexual abuse.
My father was really against any type of baby talk insisting that we were talked to in full sentences and learned the correct vocabulary for things including body parts. His view was that using the right words to describe body parts is an essential part of early learning about sex and using nicknames not only teaches children to be embarrassed about their bodies but also destroys the trust and openness that is necessary for the future discussions about sex.
Thus I have little time for baby-talk, one boyfriend used to indulge in it and he was promptly dumped after repeat offenses. However I know many parents feel quite differently about the subject, and prefer to use nicknames to refer to genitals though they would prefer to avoid talking about the subject at all. On the other hand many parents feel quite differently preferring that children not be lumbered by these 'adult' words.
The child has taken to using nicknames, some of them particularly ridiculous, to refer to well anything that might have anything to do with anything reproductively related. The first time she did so I grumbled through gritted teeth to the Suit that just like a hand isn't a "grabber," a finger isn't a "pointer," a vulva isn't a "frontbum."
I patiently explained that knowing the proper name was important for the child's emotional well-being and for her physical safety. Just like it is important that a child know to point to their knee or wrist when it hurts, it is also important that a child can do the same for their sexual body parts in case of sickness, injury, or abuse.
I'm generally of the belief that kids from about 4 or 5 should be able to use the correct terms for all of the sexual body parts of both male and female and the only barrier to that happening are parents who are too embarrassed to talk about it.
Do you teach your children the names for their body parts using the proper names or do you use cute words to describe basic anatomy?
*A cyber-chocolate fish to anyone who can source the quote without the aid of google.