In times of personal crisis, we often find ourselves reaching for the familiar. So when Sunday rolled around, I knew there’d be something in the papers to get me all fired up about something. And sure enough the Herald delivered with their secrets to wedded bliss.
And apparently it’s all up to the women. We need to stop being so slutty, we are spending too many years being "hurt" and "used" by men and should try to ‘settle’ into marriage earlier. The article is little more than a blatant infomercial for relationship ‘gurus’ Ian and Mary Grant’s new book on successful marriage.
Dear god how many stupid people must there be out there who keep purchasing relationship books with the same theme, if a man finds a woman desirable he will work hard to win her affection and commit earlier so women you need to stop being so slutty?
Aside from the obvious annoyance with the idea that women need to put their sexual desires to one side in order to woo a guy (who may or may turn out to be a complete asshole) the thing that grates on my nerves the most is that marriage is the end of the relationship game. Once we’ve waited for the boy to finally slip a ring on our finger (because a woman who proposes is clearly a slut), we’ve scaled the heights of womanhood and are infallible.
Of course the big assumption that the Herald on Sunday makes is that the only desirable men for women to shack up with are those who have don’t bring baggage into the relationship in the form of previous wives or even worse, children. From my perspective, being Dad’s ‘whatever’ to the child isn’t the hard part, it’s dealing with the ex wife part of the bargain that downright sucks. And it’s for that reason that I wouldn’t recommend a ‘used’ option for all but the hardiest of women. It’s hard, real hard. But I love that personal disaster or not, the Suit always brings flowers to greet me at the airport after a trip away and will argue with me about what’s written in the Sunday papers .