A few weeks ago, Dr Denis Walsh caused no end of outrage both here and the UK for suggesting that women should endure the pain of labour without anaesthetic drugs - in particular, epidurals - because they undermine the mother's bond with her newborn baby.
Firstly although the man in question was an Associate Professor of Midwifery and probably knows more about childbirth than the average blogger, there was something about a man telling women how to give birth that really annoyed the hell out of females. I'm pretty sure that if the expert in question had been a woman, we probably wouldn't be so up and arms about the opinion even if we disagreed with it.
So I'm going to say that comments such as 'well you trying pushing something the size of a watermelon out of something the size of a lemon' probably aren't that helpful in birth politics.
And what a hornet's nest birth politics are. I think in our efforts to have the perfect birth, we forget that everyone wants the same thing, healthy babies and mothers at the end of it. I'm pretty sure that many mothers would happily have a good birth (one in which everyone lives) rather than tying themselves up in knots trying to have the perfect birth.
Also let us not forget that while birth is important it is not the only part of what makes a mother. Drying away tears, defusing tantrums or picking up your wayward teen from a party where they had too much to drink all seem to me to be just not as if not more important part of parenthood that the act giving birth. Because after all, at worst you labour takes a few days, raising your children and actually being a parent takes a commitment of at least 18 years. Some parents would argue that it never really stops until you cark it.