Saturday, 14 August 2010

I see your pro-choice t-shirt

up at LadyNews,

and I raise you a pro-choice Onesie:

Found via a friend's Facebook feed. Sorry I can't remember whose!

8 comments:

LadyNews said...

Hells. Yeah.

Hugh said...

I've always felt those 'here by choice' shirts could be quite hurtful to kids who are adopted. I know that's not the intent, but...

muerk said...

But what about the baby who isn't here because he or she wasn't wanted? It's so sad...

Julie said...

Kids who are adopted are here by choice too, aren't they? Could you explain that a bit more Hugh, sorry I'm not quite understanding what you are getting at, it's probably just my foggy brain today.

muerk, that is borderline. I'll let it stand for now. You may be sad about what you see as babies who were terminated, and I respect that, but to assume that others here share your views is a step too far. I could be flippant about your comment, but I'm trying hard to resist.

Not every thread should be used as an opportunity to try to make people agree with you about abortion muerk. Or to heighten the ick response either.

Consider this a warning.

Hugh said...

Well, the thinking is that the adopted child is wanted, but not by their birth parents. And that's something that a lot of adopted children struggle with, so seeing somebody else proudly proclaiming how they are wanted by their birth parents could be kind of hurtful.

Julie said...

Ah I understand better now, thanks. I guess I would tend to think that if a woman goes full term with a pregnancy and adopts then actually she has chosen to have that child (certainly if we had a truly pro-choice abortion law in nz). She's then chosen to give the parenting of that child primarily to another, but given that most adoptions in NZ these days are open she would still probably have some contact too. So it wouldn't need to be entirely negative, would it? I guess it's all about the conversations parents (adoptive or otherwise) have with children, and I admit that we are not always very good with how we talk about tricky stuff.

muerk said...

Feel free to delete it Julie because I realise and respect that this isn't my blog. It is honestly how feel, I mean the pro-choice baby clothes genuinely deeply upsets me because of well... obvious reasons I don't need to go into.

I don't expect others to share my views, but I wish they did of course. Thank you for not being flippant, I appreciate that.

Anonymous said...

Anybody that I've ever spoken to that has given a child up for adoption has done so out of love for that child. It was the lack of support from those around them or their inability to take care of the child that influenced the choice, not a lack of either love or want.

Alana