Last night I had the opportunity to speak to a
group at the National council of Women of NZ. I was asked to be a part of
a panel of speakers to the theme of women in interesting jobs but unfortunately
due to illness I was the last woman standing! This meant that I wrote my key
points into a more formal speech, and discussed the themes of women in
workplaces as well as just my own experiences.
At the start of the meeting my support buddy and I were
introduced along with a few other visitors, and then the members stood and
identified themselves, I only got more nervous. Representatives were present
from a wide range of women’s groups, from different generations of feminism,
and multiple branches of different types of church.
I was SO out of my depth here.Shaking in my boots, I was petrified that I would be “teaching them to suck eggs.” Many of these women were of the generations where ANY out of the home work post-children was sticking your neck out; my little struggles in a volunteer role, and success at work weren’t worth a mention. I thought to myself perhaps at least I might offer a little clarity into the theories behind the experiences.
As I started speaking, my first comment about not feeling qualified to speak to the room got a lot of laughs, and when I asked if anyone else had felt that “imposter syndrome” most of the room sheepishly raised their hands, and then roared with laughter and a quick chat with the person next to them when they realised they weren’t alone.
I suddenly realised that what I could provide with my talk was a reminder that although we are still fighting similar battles, we are fighting it together, with wonderful communities. The experience of feeling like we have stepped beyond where we “should be” was a shared one between generations.
Once the speech was done, questions that came from
the group were fantastic, and it was a real privilege to be able to have a cup
of tea and chat one-on-one afterwards.
Some Imposter syndrome articles
http://www.paulineroseclance.com/pdf/ip_high_achieving_women.pdf
The Glass ceiling
http://www.public.iastate.edu/~f2004.soc.327/escalator(dec03).pdf
Dunning and Kruger.
Interesting
resources.
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